Early Spring Notes

30 Mar 2009 in From the Editor by David Miller

Layla in Seattle Arboretum. Photo: Laura Bernhein.

Happy Spring from the Traveler’s Notebook. Here’s what’s up.
Indie Travel Podcast

Congrats to longtime Matador contributors Craig and Linda Martin for their winning the Lonely Planet’s award for best travel podcast. If you haven’t yet, make sure you subscribe to their podcast.. Craig has produced several podcasts for the Notebook as well. You can find them here.

Notes from the Road

Also wanted to thank everyone who has been submitting their notes from the road. We’ve been getting lots of great stories. In general, most have been rejected not because the writing isn’t ‘good’ but because it doesn’t seem like a ‘note’. Those that have been selected seem to have a few things in common:

  • Total lack of any kind of ‘judgment’.
  • A focus on ‘concrete’ language.
  • Short paragraphs, words, sentences, overall length.
  • A narrator who isn’t looking for ‘universal truths’ but just traveling and observing things as they come.

Please keep writing and sending everyone. We could be publishing your note next.

Travel and Adventure Jobs

In the weeks ahead we’ll be bringing back one of our favorite series: travel and adventure jobs. Please note: we’re currently soliciting submissions .

Happy Spring everyone. Here in Seattle the Cherry Blossoms are going off and there’s still color in the sky at 8:00 pm.

Watching the Pig Slaughter with Albina

28 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Teresa Ponikvar
So many of us are disconnected from our food sources. Teresa Ponikvar notes one local Nicaraguan family that isn’t.

Albina. Photo: Teresa Ponikvar

The mist is creeping through the banana trees and Albina drags us outside to show us her world.

She introduces us to the fat-bellied puppies first. The mother dog is thin and exhausted. She lifts her head just long enough to decide that we are no threat, then lets it flop back into the dirt.

Tugging at our hands and chattering about a “chancha”—whatever that is—Albina guides us around to the back of the house. She gestures proudly at a good-sized, mottled white-and-gray pig, sleeping with its back pressed against the weathered boards of the house, and that’s how I learn that “chancha” is Nicaraguan for pig.

“Tomorrow we’re going to kill the chancha,” she tells us. I wonder if I’ve understood her correctly, and doubtfully relay this information to Jessie, who looks concerned. Albina picks up a stick and scratches the pig’s side idly.

In the morning Doña Adela, rapidly patting out tortillas, confirms that the chancha’s number is indeed up. Various uncles and male cousins are already arriving, preparing for the slaughter, or just standing around manfully, dreaming of pork.

Jessie organizes the younger boys into a game of Frisbee. Albina tries to join them, but when the Frisbee conks her on the head and the boys laugh, she picks up a huge stick and shakes it at them furiously. She stalks into the house, and comes back out with the child-sized plastic lawn chair that is clearly her prize possession.

I wave her over to me, offer my notebook and a handful of colored pencils. She brightens at this and proceeds to fill page after page with rows and rows of flowers, all precisely the same size. I sit there wishing I could buy her a book, knowing it’s not my place.

Later, Doña Adela sets up plastic chairs for Jessie and me, front row seats to the chancha’s demise. It takes several uncles to hold the pig (who seems to know what’s coming) still enough for its throat to be slit. Norbin, thirteen years old, is in charge of catching the spurting blood in a bucket, a task he handles with what strikes me as amazing aplomb.

The pig screams and screams, bleeds and bleeds. Jessie snaps pictures while I sit transfixed. Albina turns her back but doesn’t say anything. When the pig is finally quiet, she looks at me with wide eyes.

“I felt sorry for the chancha,” she tells me in a whisper. “Me, too,” I whisper back, and squeeze her shoulder, knowing that we will both eat the meat anyway.

Later, the skinny mother dog snaps down the discarded pig entrails, glancing around warily with her one blue eye and one brown. The whole family feasts on pork nixtamales in the darkness of the house, and to a scratchy radio station, I dance with Albina, and Jessie dances with Norbin, the aunts dance with the uncles, and the cousins bust their moves solo.

Doña Adela smiles out from the smoky kitchen. She hasn’t stopped working for one moment since we met her.

How to Avoid Being an Ugly American Tourist

27 Mar 2009 in How To by Kate Sedgwick

Tourist telltale sign # 452: being a totally disconnected spectator. Photo: Jon Feinstein

Obnoxious tourists aren’t all from America, although we seem to have more than our fair share. Here’s maybe the most straight up guide ever written on how to spot ugly tourist behavior and avoid it . . .for everyone’s sake.

Tuesday I was stuck on a bus for four hours. I say ’stuck’ because there was an American guy behind me yammering away at a very gracious Argentinean woman. I was embarrassed to be from the United States.

Offense #1

“My friends back home would not have been able to stand that. All that Spanish for two hours. No way. They woulda said, ‘I’m outta here,’ and took off after twenty minutes. No way. No. None of those guys back home coulda put up with that. . not that I’m complaining or anything.”

If you don’t know what’s wrong with what the prick said, maybe you should leave international travel for those who do.

First of all – not complaining? Oh yes he was, and in the most insipid way possible, by claiming not to be. The woman he was speaking to was kindly speaking his language on a national holiday that I’m sure she would have enjoyed spending in another way. His statement did more than point out his lack of interest in her language. It revealed his contempt for it.

At the same time he was congratulating himself for “putting up with” two hours of Spanish, he was revealing himself to be someone so dull he couldn’t be bothered to find anything interesting about other people who did not speak English based on their gestures, personalities or expressions.

He revealed himself to be someone who feels he should be catered to, translated for, and that any experience that isn’t set up explicitly for him to enjoy is a situation to be endured rather than appreciated.

He expected to be praised for this. He repeated this snippet of masturbatory self congratulation at least three times and he never got an agreement out of the woman. She was graciously trying to let it pass without comment. But that wasn’t good enough. He just had to be patted on the back, and much like spanking it to soft core porn, the experience of trying to satisfy himself was leaving something to be desired.

Offense # 2

A guy from California related the following story to me. By way of background, there is dog shit all over the sidewalks here in Buenos Aires. It’s not uncommon at all to see a genteel looking fellow walking his schnauzer, calmly watching the dog dump a load in the middle of the sidewalk and continue on his way.

People from here complain about it, sure. They also generally know how to avoid it. Back to the guy from California. Here’s what he had to say:

“The other day I saw a woman pick up her dog’s shit. I went up to her and I said, ‘Thank you! Thank you! It’s great that you picked that up! Good job!’”

Can you guess what’s wrong with this?

It’s so patronizing it almost makes me ill.

It implies he has some kind of stake in the city. The guy was here for three months and will probably never be back. It implies that he knows better than the majority of the people here how best to behave.

If I were that woman and some whacked out hippie came up to me with his Yanqui accent and said that, I’d probably be leaving my dog’s turds on the sidewalk from that day forward.

Offense # 3

My third tale comes from a blog of an acquaintance from Australia.

There is a lot of trash on the street in Buenos Aires. Some of this has to do with the fact that there are people who pick the trash (cartoneros) who pull recyclables out of the waste of the masses, leaving a swath of loose garbage in their wake. Also, people litter. That’s the city. It’s a dirty city and I like dirty cities, but not this son of a bitch.

His story went something like this:

He saw a woman throw a candy bar wrapper on the sidewalk. He picked it up and handed it back to her and told her that she’d dropped it, pointing out a nearby trash can.

This guy’s Spanish is rudimentary at best. The anti-litter-bug decided to make a correction. In so doing, he insulted a citizen, and made an ass of himself.

Here’s what his behavior said:

  • I come from a superior culture that knows better.
  • I’m going to instruct you in the ways of my superior culture.
  • I find the appearance of your city distasteful and rather than leave, I will take my mild aggression out on someone I can identify as a culprit, and that’s you.

He was so satisfied with himself that given time for reflection, he chose to display his rude and arrogant behavior in a public forum. In this way he flaunted his shitty attitude and feeling of superiority while insulting Buenos Aires as being filthy at the same time.

Lessons learned / How not to be an obnoxious tourist

Here’s the thing. If you’re going to travel, please, please, pretty please keep in mind you are a guest. Here are some lessons from the offenses above:

Lesson 1: Don’t fish for compliments for putting up with another culture.

You are a visitor. The people who have allowed you into their country aren’t props in some little game you have in your mind. You are lucky to be there. Appreciate it and let people know you do.

Lesson 2: Make an attempt to learn the language.
Lesson 3: Be humble. Your country sucks, too.

If someone came to your country as a foreigner and all they did was bitch and complain, taking short breaks to brag about what a trooper they were for sticking it out or putting up with the way things were, you might be nice to their face, but you’d be thinking, “Why don’t you just go home if you hate it so much, you putrid bastard?”

The best way to behave, at least until you’ve gotten your bearings, is as if you are in the house of your friend’s parents. Be on your best behavior. Clean up after yourself. Mind your manners. Ask before taking. Listen when spoken to. Apologize if you do not understand. Treat the people with respect.

Photos Kate Sedgwick (unless otherwise noted)

From Mumbai to Northern India by Train

25 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Divya Srinivasan

Photos by the author.

Notes and photos from Divya Srinivasan, a student in Mumbai and frequent Matador contributor.

The train began to move and my friends ran along. They were almost jogging and I watched as the train overtook them, watched my mom stand and watch me go.

Soon they were all out of sight and so was the station platform. I got back into the compartment and took my seat. There was an elderly couple next to me.

I was traveling from Mumbai to Northern India, a 30 hour journey. By evening my iPod battery gave up on me and I took a break to look at things.

I fidgeted a little and caught the attention of the lady next to me, she said in Hindi “Where does a young girl like you travel alone to?” I told her to volunteer with an NGO.

She snorted and said “At your age, child, I was ripe with my third born.” (I’m 21).

Soon we were chit chatting like old friends and her husband joined in. I learnt they were Sindhi’s from Sind which now politically falls under Pakistan. When India was partitioned they didn’t want to be part of Pakistan so gave up their home, land and family, crossed the border onto India on foot.

They told me about their life thereafter and what a disappointment India had been. I felt angry and defensive but I didn’t say anything.

Night came and I retired to my bunk. I don’t remember when I dozed off but was awoken sometime in the night by loud fighting and shouting. The police were conducting a random check on the train and someone had been caught with alcohol. We were in a religious section of the country where alcohol was prohibited, besides you’re not allowed to travel with any booze on you.

The police moved down the train and I could hear them approaching me. When you see the cops you feel like you’re in danger rather than safe and secure.

My heart began thumping even though I knew I had nothing on me and there was no reason for them to pick on me. The curtains of my berth were drawn and I heard the policeman ask the conductor:

“Who’s in here?”

The conductor responded “it’s a girl, from Mumbai, she’s only a child”

And I heard the policeman walk away.

On inquiring from the conductor I found out we were in the middle of the Rajasthan desert. That was a scary thought. The train began to move and the next thing I remember is loud shrill voices screaming “chai” (Tea) and light flooding in from somewhere. Then I was dreaming that I was swimming and I couldn’t figure out which side was up because there was light in every direction and some annoying voice was saying something about tea.

I woke up then and found that I was in Delhi, still had a few hours to get to Haryana. I bought some chai for 5 rupees and settled down. I went off to relieve myself and stare at the ground through the small hole through which I was expected to dump. It felt weird but I did what I had to do.

The elderly couple had gotten off at Delhi and I was alone in the compartment now.

Tim and Tom’s Excellent Adventure Part 1: Cashews

24 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Tom Gates

Tom, hanging with ‘the creature’.

Here’s what happened when Matador Editors Tom Gates and Tim Patterson met up for a few days in Laos.

21/3/09

Patterson:

3 days ago I projectile vomited from an auto rickshaw in Varanasi, India, on the way to the train station. This was after a week of flights from Vermont to Chicago to Colorado to New York to Brussels to New Delhi to Kathmandu.

The night train from Varanasi to Calcutta was only mildly miserable, and I found a cheap room off Sudder Street with peeling yellow wallpaper.

The next morning I flew to Bangkok, landed mid-afternoon, took a cab to the massive computer center in Panthip, bought a replacement AC adaptor for my laptop, caught another cab to the bus station, bought a ticket to the Laos border and waited for the night-bus with my head in my hands, feeling the fever come on.

Tim, ‘recovering’ with ‘the creature’.

All night, I alternated between curling against the bus window and lurching down the aisle to spray liquid yellow shit into the can.

Crossing into Laos, I got caught in a rainstorm. I sheltered in a café, asked to use the bathroom, then promptly shit my pants. Disposing of my boxers in the bathroom garbage can, I free-balled through the rain to the guesthouse Tom had chosen, Lani Guesthouse, a lovely inn tucked down a back-lane next to a quiet temple.

I knocked on the door. Tom was at the desk, typing. He jumped up and gave me a big hug, then instantly recoiled. “You’re soaking wet,” he said. “You don’t even know the half of it,” I replied.

That night I slept for a solid 12 hours. At some point Tom took the photo of the creature on me. Now, thanks to antibiotics, I’m back on my feet, and this little adventure can properly begin.

Gates:

Patterson and I immediately set up a domestic partnership. It was simple. First he needed confirmation that his hair had gone Play-Doh Barbershop out of control. 5’9” whiteboys from Vermont don’t need fro’s – no hesitation in telling him yes to that.

Second, he needed a Manny, on account of his shitting sickness. I did my best, hunting around town for foods that bind. Third, he needed somebody who would sit silently near him, completely ignoring his presence and typing on this laptop. This was gonna be perfect.


22/03/09

Gates:

We did the sunset on the Mekong thing again, which is always pretty amazing. We sat at tables at the end of river bend, watching kids play soccer and eating cashews that had been fried up in oil, then coated with salt (I had to ask that they be placed on the other side of the table, lest I would eat them all in two handfuls).

We gave another bar a shot but it pretty much sucked. I ordered a Full Moon Rising cocktail, which looked exactly like water that’s had different color paintbrushes dipped in it.

For dinner, I made us go to a place called Sticky Fingers and I ordered nachos and yes, I’m That Guy.

But. Full redemption. I stumbled upon the best cocktail I’ve ever had, called Tom Yum Martini. It’s vodka that has been soaked in chili, added to fruit juice that’s been mulled in lemongrass and ginger, added to sugar water. Fuck me with a chainsaw, that was good. I had two.

My lips were fiery and had a freshly colagen’d look to them but heavens to Betsy, was I happy. We had a bizarre dinner with two interesting dudes, both 19 year+ expats in Laos. We listened as they debated the issues of the day with gusto and an American accent that I missed. “Oh, that fucking place…” “What a pile of horse shit that was..”.

The other side of these guys was all heart – each of them have been doing things for this country that could only help it, for no other reason than to just do it. They were equal parts Clint Eastwood and Jimmy Buffett. Then Tim bailed, probably to drop his innards into our toilet again.

I hung back and talked to a 24 year old from Washington. He grew up on a weed farm. I came home to a room that smelled like farts. Well not exactly like farts. More like cashews.


22/03/09

Patterson:

Note to Tom: was this the rat shit?

The other day Tom got his ass stuck on the toilet. We had moved from lovely Lani Guesthouse to a cheaper backpacker joint by the river and, while this new room is perfectly serviceable, according to Tom there’s rat shit in the bathroom and the toilet seat is cracked.

This crack is what pinched Tom’s butt-cheek. “I thought something had reached up and grabbed me,” he said.

For those who are concerned about my wellbeing, thanks. I’m on Azythro and although I haven’t enjoyed a solid yet, I can now fart without worrying about the dreaded accidental shart.

I admit the room smelled like farts when Tom got home last night, but I deny bailing from Sticky Fingers. We were both on our way out the door when Tom spotted a hot guy alone at the bar and got the same look on his face that he gets when he’s about to order a Beer Lao.

I wasn’t about to stick around.

Gates:

First: Mouse shit. There’s mouse shit on the bathroom floor. Second, I’m so excited that Tim is coming along so quickly, able to spot hot guys with ease. I’d suggest that he liked dudes if he didn’t stop hitting on Japanese girls.

I had to admit, that’s a cool move. To be a granola-looking Vermont kid, to walk up to a Japanese chick and start talking in their language. Rapidly. Then be able to drop “Oh I lived there for a couple of years.”

[Editor's note: where are those pictures?]

They melt every time, no matter how obvious a come-on it is. Patterson’s got a passion for these girls that rivals Rivers Cuomo. These Japanese girls do it to him every time.

We’ve taken to holing up in Joma Café, which has Wifi, aircon and incredible home-made soup. We sit there like an elderly couple, locking up tables for hours on one order of lemon shakes. I’ve been downloading Battlestar Galactica episodes, which is surely why everyone in the place wonders why the Wifi is So Damned Slow Here.

Vientiane is coming up faster than I thought it was. I was here just one year ago and found it to be somewhat sleepy. It’s now growing at a positively Vietnamese pace, with guesthouses going up on every corner. One afternoon I watched an entire storefront went up on a 7-Eleven knockoff, then went inside and bought a bottle of water that was priced 10 cents more than the other, non-flashy 7-11 knockoff next door.

They’re getting it – increase the price if it’s perty-er. We’ll go to the perty-er one, no question.


Patterson:

Yeah, Vientiane is a heck of a lot fancier than I expected. It’s not a tourist boutique like parts of Luang Prabang, but there are plenty of foreigners here, some shops selling golf clubs and a handful of upscale cafes that cater to WiFi addicts from Connecticut. (Both Tom and I are actually from Connecticut. In fact, our fathers are from the same town, Durham).

But yeah – people are doing a brisk business in the capital of Laos these days. When I arrived a new ATM was going in on the corner by our guesthouse and yesterday two Swedish girls were already withdrawing kip.

I love the riverfront – ramshackle restaurants and beer gardens with fresh chicken and beef, live shrimp and fish and glum frogs all displayed out front.

The sunsets here make me want to paint watercolors, something I haven’t done in years. Around 7 pm the river is painted pink with a blood-orange streak where the sun is falling and kids are running around on the sandbar, playing soccer or going for a swim.

We found a great little bar for the sunset yesterday, pretty much the very last one if you walk west along the river out of town. There were just a few tables and not much on the menu besides warm cashew nuts and Beer Lao. An adorable puppy was playing under our table. I tried to be its friend but it didn’t like cashews.

How to Tell Your Family You’re Leaving for a Year to go Travel

23 Mar 2009 in How To by Turner Wright

Photo: Andrew Cisel.

Finally reaching the decision to go abroad for an extended time can be hard enough . . . and then you have to tell your friends and family, which, for some of us, just ain’t easy. Here are a few things to keep in mind.

When I returned home after a few years in Asia and met my parents at the airport, I knew at some point I’d have to convince them of my decision to get back out into the world. The travel gene, which had been dormant for a year following university, kicked in during my time in Japan; unfortunately, this particular one seemed to skip a generation in my family.

Although not quite ready to tell them everything, I decided there wouldn’t be any harm in at least laying a foundation of my thoughts. Immediately quoting Kerouac came to mind, but just as quickly passed – my mother and father were the two least likely people to check a travel philosophy book out of the library, even one from their time.

Telling friends had been so much simpler:

“Hey, I’m leaving the country in a few weeks.”

“Nice. Where ya headed?”

“Japan, for a year at least.”

“You are crazy. Well, send me a email.”

“Will do.”

I had a strange suspicion this explanation would not suffice for two people who struggled and suffered to pay my college tuition; traveling almost seemed like a betrayal of their expectations. How could I best justify my wanderlust to my parents? Here are a few things I’ve learned to help put things into perspective:

1. Brave New Job Market

Explain how taking a year “off” to travel can actually help your career rather than impede it. Employers are looking for graduates who are able to deal with unpredictable situations, are flexible with travel, and exhibit good interpersonal skills. The Traveler’s Notebook’s own How to Make Travel Look Good on a Resume sums this up quite nicely.

2. Safety First

This might be hardest sell of all… planning to live in parts of Africa, South America, or Asia? The only continents that might not cause your parents to instinctively guide you down to the old bomb shelter are Europe and North America (minus Mexico).

Only the cold hard facts will help you here: look at the US Department of State advisory notices on different countries; note which ones are safe and why. Find people in your hometown who have lived in the area you’re considering and have them sit down for lunch with you and your family.

Mention you’re probably more likely to be shot in the States rather than in… well, many places.

3. “When I was your age…”

Photo: docentjoyce

This can work for or against you: have your parents lived abroad? If they were some of the few in their generation to spend a year or two abroad, ask them what they learned from it, if they wish they had never gone (of course not), and whether they would want their children to experience some similar joy.

If they are the types who have yet to even acquire passports, press them for details: Do you wish you had ever left the country? Where would you have traveled? How long? Why? Why not me?

4. Doubt

Whatever you do, don’t tell them spending a year in foreign country is an opportunity for you to get a sense of direction and what you want to do with your life.

Whatever you do, don’t tell them spending a year in foreign country is an opportunity for you to get a sense of direction and what you want to do with your life.

Although these things might be true for you, I have a sinking suspicion parents assume you could reach the same conclusions working an entry-level job or enlisting in the military – maybe they’re secretly hoping such a position would quell all this “travel nonsense”.

5. The Chance to Visit

I had spent over a year in Japan and my parents were still on my back about missed opportunities in the US, losing touch with family, and cost of travel. The first time I really got their approval was when I invited them to visit.

I took them to see the blooming of the cherry blossoms, sat them down on tatami mats for a traditional Japanese dinner, and performed for them as I spoke the native tongue while asking about a certain ikebana arrangement. Those seven days showed I possessed more than the means to simply survive abroad… I could thrive, and they knew how precious that was to me.

Now they follow my adventures more closely than my best friends.

6. Why Aren’t You Married Yet?

Photo: Ed.ward

I personally haven’t had too much experience in this area, as I left for Asia when I was still rather young. But I imagine it’s different depending on whether you have any older unwed siblings or younger wed siblings. Or if you happen to be a girl. Pressure, pressure.

Assuming you’re not with anyone at the time of your departure, parents might assume you’re giving up another year of possible soulmate-meeting, i.e. there’s no way you could ever encounter someone of substance on the road. Nothing could be further from the truth.

While growing up together strengthens relationships while both parties are going through the same phases in life, so too does travel by having you discover if two people can stay on the wavelength while their worlds are ever in a state of flux.

7. Mother Says

This can apply to other life lessons as well: eating cookies, playing Nintendo, doing your homework. She will always be the one to cry for you to come home every month, every week, every hour.

She will panic at a missed phone call (we need a Matador article for good travel excuses). She will be scanning news websites and frantically try to reach you if there is even a mention of inclement weather or terrorist activity – threat level fuchsia.

Do your best to stave off major concerns, but, in the end, make her understand this is your life. And you’re living it the only way you know how.

Lines of the Week: The Air Quality

20 Mar 2009 in Lines of the Week by David Miller
This week’s lines and image come from new Matador member Britt V. She’s on the road in Laos:

This was an excerpt from Britt V’s Matador blog .

The Train out of Krakow

19 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Daniel Fitzpatrick

Feature photo by Kr. B. Photo above by austinevan.

One traveler’s take on remembrance and the random nature of travel, especially after ditching your travel partner and jumping on a train in the middle of the night.

This has not been my proudest moment. We’d only been traveling for a week but that was more than enough. My issue with her wasn’t a mild irritation but a complete dislike; so I’ve taken the easy option – I’ve ran, packed my bags and jumped on the first train out of town, out of Poland.

I can see the other passengers’ bemused glances. In my guilty state I convince myself they know my betrayal. I keep my head down.

Having backpacked across Eastern Europe for several months, I’ve learnt the advantages of a companion. You meet people heading in the same direction and team up. You endure mild oddities for the comfort of knowing someone is watching your back.

Pretty soon it dawned on me that the only thing we had in common was speaking English.

We’d met in a Warsaw hostel two weeks earlier and decided to travel together. Pretty soon it dawned on me that the only thing we had in common was speaking English.

It was hard to pinpoint what I disliked but it was probably a combination of an over-the-top personality, a room-filling voice and an attitude that said ‘I know everything about everything’.

I try and console myself. We’ve only just met, we didn’t sign any contracts, I was a free agent to come and go as I pleased. But it’s no use. Guilt. I’m starting to feel pretty low. Of course I’ve over-reacted. There are far worse scenarios than travelling with someone who is a little overbearing.

Photo by arekolek.

I glance over at a group of older Germans across the isle; their rosy drunk faces, eyes shining from laughter. While not understanding the conversation, it’s obvious they’re having a good time.

The adrenaline of making the train (three-kilometre run to the station in the middle of the night) has worn off. The interior lights dim. The Germans continue their conversation.

The seats with their deep metallic armrests are not meant to accommodate sleeping. I tilt my head at various angles to find one that’s not too uncomfortable. I keep going over scenarios. I envisage the scene when Hannah finally realises I have left her. Or maybe I’m giving myself more credit than I’m worth. Would she even care?

I dwell on the randomness of travelling. People come in and out of your life in a second but leave a lasting impression. I’m positive the Germans next to me will forget me soon after the trip ends if they even noticed me at all. However, I am quite certain I’ll remember them. I tuck my jacket under my head to act as a makeshift pillow. I’m in for a long night.

La Próxima Ola – The Next Wave – Notebook 2.0

19 Mar 2009 in From the Editor by David Miller

Editor David Miller with assistant wave-checker, Layla.

Greetings mundo,

Stoke levels are super high across Matador tonight as we’ve just launched a new theme for the entire network. This coincides with a whole new crew of contributing editors, including Teresa Ponikvar , who will be joining me here at the Notebook to bring you the fresh.

Now seems like a good time to reflect. Here’s a brief history:

The Traveler’s Notebook launched as Matador’s first ‘network’ site in back in September 2007. We joined forces with Brave New Traveler at the end of January of 2008. From there our network has evolved into what it is today: 9 sites interconnected through the Matador Community and covering everything travel, culture, and place.

Our original vision for the notebook had two parts:

  • To find local experts willing to line out the exact who-what-where-when-why and how of travel. Like How To Travel By Cargo Ship, or How to Convert your Truck to Run on Veggie Oil.
  • To offer advice on becoming a better writer, photographer, filmmaker.

That’s still still our mission today, and even after almost 2 years, it still feels like we’re only in the early stages. There are way more waves out there.

The gringo puts everyone to bed.

17 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by David Miller
Notes scribbled during a party at my father in law’s house in Buenos Aires after a day of watching piquiteros blockading the neighborhood with stacks of tires set on fire . . .

3:30 am.

We’re dancing to Cumbia Villera. The Indian masks on the walls seem to be scowling over the dance floor.

Cumbia villera is the rhythm of the cartonero clopping down the street with his horse.

It’s the music of the streets. Like hip-hop, the words don’t hold anything back. They talk about life in la villa.

And here, just like there, it is the music of the poor that moves the children of the middle-class.

Photo: irrezolut.

5:00 am.

I help the dj load his gear into his truck, and–what the hell—someone has broken in, stolen his toolbox. He just shakes his head and says, “What can you do? Aqui te roban, aqui te matan.” (Here they rob you and kill you.)

5:30 am.

Almost dawn and only four of us left—Gabi, me, DJ, Gustavo. The dining room / dance-floor is covered with this nasty black resin. We can’t figure out what it is at first, then we realize that everyone tracked in ashes from the burnt tires in front of the house.

Now the four of us are sprawled on couches and armchairs in the living room. A small fire still burns in the fireplace and 40 empty beer cups line the table.

We’re listening to some heavy techno music, a show called metro dance, which is broadcast live from a club in Buenos Aires. It feels like the four of us here are connected somehow to everyone else listening to this station. I’m imagining groups of friends gathered in front of other fires, inside other houses, and all the locos still dancing between the booming walls of the clubs.

5:45 am.

Gustavo and DJ passed out now, but Gabi keeps rubbing her blackened feet on them. She’s asking me why why why does DJ want a girlfriend who is Latina. I keep telling her, baby I don’t know—everyone has his or her gusto, and anyway you’re drunk. you need to go to sleep.

She tells me, no, no, everyone else needs to stay awake and talk to me, and I say, “Nena, you’re finished. If I start telling you a bedtime story you’ll be asleep in 5 seconds.”

“Try it,” she says. And so I start telling her a story about a girl who hears drumbeats in the rain, and she’s asleep in 5 seconds.

I check the fire, cut off the lights, the stereo, leave my friends there snoring in their chairs. I walk upstairs, feeling something I can’t quite define. Maybe it’s a twisted pride: for once the gringo put everyone to bed. Whatever it is, it’s something peaceful. I get into bed next to Lau and just before I close my eyes I hear a rooster crowing.

How to Get the Most Out of a Bus Tour (If You Hate Bus Tours)

16 Mar 2009 in How To by Adam Roy

Photo by wakxy

Young, independent-minded travelers tend to see the tour bus as a rolling retirement home, shepherding flocks of Bermuda-shorted pensioners from tourist trap to tourist trap while spoon-feeding them a watered-down version of the local culture. But what if you have to take the tour bus?

Tour buses can seem about as adventurous and educational as watching a week’s worth of infomercials. With the slumping world economy putting the squeeze on travel plans everywhere, however, many backpackers are starting to reconsider.

The steep discounts on lodging, food and transportation that tour operators offer can make traveling much more affordable. And it is quite possible to squeeze a memorable trip out of even the most brain-meltingly bland bus tour. To do it, you’ll have to go undercover: it’s time to enter the world of the tour bus ‘rebel.’

Photo by Paleontour

1. Get away.

Large groups don’t get far off the beaten path. Logistical concerns force them to limit their destinations to the biggest tourist sites and cut out everything else. However, if you’re interested in the uncut, 360-degree view, ‘everything else’ is just what you’re after.

Most tours offer occasional blocks of free time, usually for shopping in designated marketplaces or lounging around city squares. These breaks are ideal opportunities to get away from the tour bus regimen and peruse what the destination has to offer; just poking around the seams can yield some interesting results.

2. Do your homework.

Read up on your destination before you leave home. The more, the better – it’s the knowledge that you bring with you that enables you to function as a comfortable self-sufficient traveler.

While guidebooks are a great place to start, they certainly aren’t everything. Spending time reading the newspaper will help you understand what those campaign posters are really about or why everyone is putting straw-stuffed mannequins in front of their houses.

Who knows? Study up enough and you may even find yourself catching the guide’s mistakes.

Photo by dawvon

3. Power to the people!

When you’ve spent days watching the world through a bus window, it’s easy to slip into the role of spectator. The landscape on the other side of the glass starts to seem like a TV documentary. The people who inhabit that landscape are either background details or obstacles blocking your view.

Traveling to a country without paying any attention to the people who live there is like ignoring that country’s soul. Beyond broad cultural traditions and stereotypes, the subtle differences between people often explain a lot.

You’re not just interested in the clothes they wear or the holidays they celebrate. You want to know how important punctuality is to them, what kind of school they went to, how they perceive government. Get to know the people around you, and stay curious: Conversation doesn’t cost a penny.

4. Don’t get tourist trapped.

If the commission system is in effect, you may find your vacation getting less Discovery Channel and more Home Shopping Network. If your guide seems just a little too cozy with the store owners or too enthusiastic about the quality of their wares, be on guard.

Be wary of trips to visit “traditional textile workshops” or other handicraft galleries. While they are often advertised as free demonstrations, you can expect to face a hard sell afterward.

The fact that tourists are almost universally assumed to be wealthy doesn’t help matters, and merchants in heavily traveled areas such as Rajasthan often try to convince visitors to impulsively drop small fortunes on unnecessary luxury items like vases or hand-woven rugs.

Buy what you actually want and be on your way; if that fails, you can always try offhandedly remarking that you’re completely broke.

Hey, it may even be true. You are a backpacker, after all.

COMMUNITY CONNECTION

Prepare yourself for those authentic markets by reading up about how to evaluate and purchase traditional textiles.

Think you know what it’s like to travel in Iran?

14 Mar 2009 in Lines of the Week by David Miller
[Editor's note: This is the first post in a new series here at the notebook called "Lines of the Week." Each week we'll going through all the blogs at Matador and posting our favorite lines. Bigup to Rob Gain for being the very first.]

Earlier this week, new Matador community member Rob Gain published a blog called An American in Iran that will shatter preconceptions of what travel in Iran is like.

As usual, it seems like the best places to go are the ones we’ve been misguided about.

photo and words by Rob Gain

Community Connection

Want to join the conversation? Start your travel blog at Matador today.

7 Reasons to Travel With Your Kids

12 Mar 2009 in Activity Guide by Kate Sedgwick

Feature photo by Beard Papa / Photo above by GraceFamily

Young families everywhere take note: include your children in your travels. Explore the world together. Here’s why.

Traveling gels a family. While life, work and school can get in the way of togetherness, a family getaway makes a team of you all. You’re in the same boat, car, train, or plane and negotiating everyone’s needs at close quarters is a chance to get to know each other again in a new way.

Here are seven reasons why traveling with your kids is a smart idea:

1. They’ll see things in the real world.

Pictures on the internet can give kids an idea, but there is nothing like seeing California redwoods in person. You never understand how big the Lincoln Memorial is until you are near one of those gigantic marble hands.

Even if your children seem to sullenly miss Guitar Hero, they will retain glimpses of the places you take them when they are older and remember them fondly.

Photo by kippster

2. It will foster family love.

While home, you settle into a routine. The habits of work and school dull the senses and interactions and it’s possible to settle into a rut in which you’re not curious about yourself or your family. A National Geographic article exposed the ways that sharing novel activities keeps love alive and fresh.

The article is about romantic love, but that unsettled feeling of risk and exploration can also be shared with your children and bring you all closer together. Feed the love for your family by sharing new experiences.

3. It will offer new answers to the question, “why?”

Wouldn’t you rather find out the answer to the question of why people of the ancient Mogollon culture constructed and lived in cliff dwellings that remain in Gila National Forest, than explain why the sky is blue?

Wouldn’t sharing the history of the Eiffel Tower be preferable to explaining that of your unkempt neighbor Glenda and the reason she always seems to be chewing on her tongue? Stimulating your child’s curiosity may very well stimulate your own.

4. You’ll learn about each other.

You feel like you know your kid better than anyone, but won’t you be surprised when your son is more drawn to the trash cans in Trafalgar Square than the fountains? Will your own curiosity about your daughter be piqued when you notice that she isn’t the least bit squeamish about eating Thai cricket stir-fry?

Being open to your kids’ reactions to new stimuli might teach you a few things about their developing personalities.

Photo by bravenewtraveler

5. It offers the opportunity to be unplugged.

You’re jealous of your kids. They have no idea what things used to be like. They have no concept of life without cable television, the Internet, and modern gadgetry.

Besides being rewarding, travel is often an experience in deprivation– or if not deprivation, at least a waiting game. There is no better way than being unplugged from modern conveniences to wake the old sense of fun and games that have nothing to do with a programmer’s idea of a good time.

Fan out that pack of cards or call up the old rules to Twenty Questions and I Spy.

6. You’ll waken the traveling spirit.

Travel is one of the best ways to open your kid’s mind to the reality of other ways of being. Feeding a child’s curiosity through travel opens possibilities of other languages and ways of life in a natural way that will inspire in later life and in the present.

If your child sees a practical application to those French lessons, she or he might be that much more inclined to pay attention, dreaming of the day when they will be put to use.

7. They’ll learn life skills and improvisation.

When your child sees you start a fire from wet wood on a cold night or watches you negotiate a cab ride in your crippled Spanish, you are setting a great example. Learning how adults get things done in difficult circumstances is a valuable lesson in improvisation and critical thinking often be hidden from children.

By providing an adventurous example to your kids, you increase the chances that they will admire and emulate behaviors you want to foster in them. When your kid watches you go from plan A to plan B and then plan C just to provide dinner, she is learning persistence and negotiation.

COMMUNITY CONNECTION

Not a parent? No problem! Traveling with your parents is just as important and rewarding. If you’re traveling with your kids for the first time and have some anxiety, you’re not alone. Check out these tips about what you should know before you hit the road.

Notes On Receiving Contributor’s Copy of Fodor’s Patagonia

11 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by David Miller
David Miller ‘reflects’ on what it’s like finally getting a contributor’s copy, and how it felt traversing some of the emptiest roads in the Americas.

One of the interns at Random House emailed me the other day to confirm my mailing address. She was sending out my contributor’s copy of Fodor’s Patagonia. I’d almost forgotten about this, honestly. I turned in my ‘chapter’ over a year ago. That’s how it works with book publication.

I haven’t had time to flip through this book. You check your name, bio, scan your words. Yep. They got everything right. “Atlantic Patagonia is where the low windswept pampas meet the ocean.”

Shadow of our car on pampas. Bring extra water and gear.

But for a couple minutes I was re-transported to that place.

We’d flown from Buenos Aires to Puerto Madryn, then rented this econo-box ford.

We took the coastal road more than 50 miles from Camarones to Bahia Bustamante. The ruts and sand in the washouts were deeper than the tires.

It was like 4-wheeling in a golf-cart.

Layla was only two-months old then and I felt nervous the whole time. The pampas went on forever. The ocean went on forever. There was nobody around anywhere. I kept thinking ‘if we had my van and camping gear and surfboards this would be all-time.’

But I wasn’t there on a surf mission. I was there to tour this place and write. I was there to check the beds and food and scene and shopping. I was over it almost as soon as the first hotel manager showed me a ‘typical room.’

Mainly I was a young dad and didn’t know where the hell we were going after this.

Standing there with the book, all of this came back and I felt almost nostalgic. Maybe not quite nostalgia, but a certain cariño. A kind of tenderness. Some feelings are easier to describe in Spanish.

I flipped through just a bit more to look at what hermano Tim Patterson had written. I felt kind of proud both of us had contributed to this book.

For a second I had this weird delusion like somehow in the future this volume would be referred to as some kind of literary travel writing masterpiece. Generations of young travel writers would be studying our words.

I love Patagonia in a different way than any other place. It’s just wide open. Tim had written a special section called “Into the Wild” that conveys the feeling perfectly: “Patagonia will shatter your sense of scale.”

I feel the need to be shattered again. And yeah, I’d take this book.

Notes from the Road Submissions Call

7 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by David Miller

Los Cerritos, Baja. Late 90s, back when it was ‘free.’ Photo by Laura Bernhein

We’re currently reading submissions again for travel narratives and notes. Here’s what’s up.

Writing a good travel narrative (or the shortened form I like to call a travel “note”) is not as easy as it sounds. It takes the right mix of characters, observations, and a sense of the place having some kind of effect on the traveler, whether it be connection, alienation, inspiration, or whatever.

For several months we’ve taken a break from reading travel narrative submissions at Matador, however we’ve just started again, for the “notes for the road” section here at the notebook. If you’re interested in sending a note, here’s a quick guide:

What to send
  • Stories that are between 400 – 800 words
  • Stories that are actually stories (They have a beginning, middle, and end).
  • Stories that have characters
  • Stories that are funny
  • Stories that are sad
  • Stories that are honest
  • Stories that are real
  • Stories about connecting (or being unable to connect) with people (physically, spiritually, whatever) and places
  • Stories that have dialogue
  • Stories written in your voice, not copying anyone else
What not to send
  • Stories over 800 words
  • Stories with the words / phrases ‘nestled’, ‘a paradise for nature lovers’, ‘the heart of’, ’snowcapped’, ‘a must-do’
  • Stories that end with tidy conclusions
  • Stories that are just the narrator pontificating / judging without interacting
Submission process

Please send your work directly to david[at]matadornetwork[dot]com with the text pasted into the email. Bios and cover letters are not necessary. Please put “notes for the road” in the subject line, plus the title.

Response times are generally within a week. If you do not hear back from us within a week it means that your narrative did not fit our specific editorial vision. Please do not take this as a judgment of your skills or talent, but simply a question of the type of stories we’re trying to publish.

Payment is the same as a regular matador network article. $25 via paypal.

Final note: pieces previously published on the internet or print are not accepted, however if you’d like to rework something you’ve already published at your matador blog, that’s fine.

We look forward to reading your submissions. Suerte,

david

Notes on Buenos Aires: A City de Mierda y Capos

6 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by David Miller

Photo by libertinus

You have to be careful not to step in dogshit in Buenos Aires. For some, that’s what they’ll remember most about it. In what terms do you ’see’ a place?

Riding home from Palermo on the creaking subte during rush hour madness. People elbowing me in the back. The heat of so many bodies. Everyone keeping his or her head down. Looks ranging from disgust to all-out despair on the faces. Nobody saying a word.

“Viste lo que es?” my friend Gustavo asks. You see what this is?

I nod and and think about it for a second and then say, “People get used to anything after a while.” The verb acostumbrar: to become accustomed to.

The train rocks through the curves and we all lean into one another, then recoil, pretending we never felt or smelt each others’ bodies.

“This is us,” Gusavo says. We push our way out through a dozen people–”permiso. . . con permiso. . .perdón,” nearly falling into the station where a guy wearing a scarf is playing a somber and perfect melody on the cello. Gustavo flips a coin into his open instrument case. We climb the filthy stairs to the cold and miraculous air outside.

“Those poor people,” Gustavo says. “They have to do this every day.”

“That many people, traveling every day. . . you’d think there’d be enough revenue to improve the transit system.” As soon as this is of my mouth–even though it was in flawless Spanish–I realize how much of a Gringo-sounding statement I’ve just made.

Watch where you step. Photo: Kai Hendry

“Yeah, but it all ends up in the impresarios’ pockets,” Gustavo says. “It’s a país de mierda.” A shit country.

“Cuidado!” I step over a huge pile of dogshit. Then I say: “So these people get on a train de mierda, go to jobs de mierda, and then on their way home, actually step in mierda?”

Exactemente,” Gustavo says, laughing. “Es todo mierda.”

Gustavo and I have had this same conversation–how Buenos Aires is una mierda–off and on for the last five years. He was born here and lives here but every few months just can’t take it anymore and ends up cooking or managing some restaurant in Mar del Plata or Miami or Costa Rica.

Anyone who is used to clean streets and orderly public transportation will see immediately how Buenos Aires is a city de mierda. But at the same time there’s something lovable and unbreakable about this place.

At the bottom of it all are the street dogs–some with unspeakable wounds and scars and deformities–trotting the concrete, tougher than any army. There’s the guy playing cello. Adding just the right soundtrack to the madness of the subway.

And then there are the capos, those doing whatever it is under whatever circumstances–whether it’s playing soccer or delivering babies–as well as it can be done.

Photo by Loco085

Capos are rare, but you meet them here from time to time, like today in the Cafe Ocho Rincones, on the corner of Forest and Alvarez Thomas. Lau and I walked in and sat down, and there he was, immediately nodding at us that he’d noted our entry and would be right over.

A waiter from the old-school with pomade-slicked hair and an immaculate bow tie. And even though he’d probably arrived here this morning off a train or bus de mierda, you’d never know it from his eyes, which said ‘as long as you’re here, whatever it is you need, I’m going to take care of you.’ He approached our table.

“Madame,” he said, bowing slightly to Lau, then “Caballero,” turning to me, “Welcome.”

On the Ropes

4 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Julie Schwietert

Photos by Julie Schwietert

We’ve been publishing several photoessays on Carnival in different places. Here’s a note about Carnaval in Salvador that shows a different side. Julie Schwietert recalls those holding the ropes.

Brazil seems far away this morning.

It could be the six inches of snow on the ground.

Or maybe it’s the fact I never really connected with anyone or anything there the way I always do when I travel.

But still, there are some things I can’t get out of my head, some things that will only begin to make sense if I write about them, some images that stick with me more than costumes and dancing and music:

Rough hands gripping a white rope.

Kids picking up discarded beer cans.

The facial expressions of revelers compared to vendors.

Tired from flights and still feeling everyone out, I refrain from pointing out what I consider to be the obvious: Race and class have almost always been linked, especially in the Americas.

“There’s not a race problem in Brazil,” an American colleague tells me authoritatively. “It’s a class problem.”

Tired from flights and still feeling everyone out, I refrain from pointing out what I consider to be the obvious: Race and class have almost always been linked, especially in the Americas.

I notice it the first night of Carnaval in Salvador, on the circuit near the waterfront.

The people accompanying the floats, those who have paid for the privilege of wearing a shirt that permits them special access inside the ropes, close to the float, are mostly white, mostly young.

The guys look like American frat boys: they wear sunglasses at night, they have a beer in each hand (bought from mostly black vendors), they slap each others’ backs or curl their arms around each others’ necks in a headlock… the strange intimacy of men.

The women are the perfect weight, many with blond highlights, their t-shirts trimmed into deep V’s or tied with a mid-riff knot.

They’re all smiling, rows of nice white teeth. They’re happy. This is Carnaval!

Unless you’re on the ropes.

The smiling bright crowd, pumped on music and beer and just the idea of being here, moves forward with the floats, and they’re all reined in by ropes.

Held by the hands of hundreds, the ropes keep payers in, riffraff out, and set the pace for the moving mass.

Most people holding the rope are not smiling. They’re concentrating on their work. They’re tired.

When the float stops, unable to advance, the people holding the rope sink to the pavement for a moment’s rest, oblivious to the rivulets of beer and urine left behind in the revelers’ wake.

It’s then that kids dart up and down the street, collecting cans. The kids are black, as are the people holding the ropes. They have shirts, too… only they didn’t pay hundreds of dollars to wear them, charging it to their credit card and paying it off for the rest of the year (so goes the rumor).

Instead, the people who hold the rope are paid to wear shirts, are paid to hold the rope, for hours.

I can’t stop thinking about them, this morning, early in New York, as the snow keeps falling.

[Editor's note: this was remixed from Julie's Blog at Matador. She also notes: "I should mention that each city where Carnaval is celebrated in Brazil is distinctly different. In Pelourinho, a suburb of Salvador, the feel is definitely much more "by the people, for the people"-- and I felt a tremendous difference there as a spectator as a result."]

On the other side of the world someone awaits you.

3 Mar 2009 in Notes From Road by Eric Warren
What happens when a beautiful girl follows you onto a bus in Chile?

A few minutes earlier I had let her cut in front of me at the ticket counter because I felt uncomfortable with her standing so close. In Chile you have to stand on top of the person in front of you or others think you’re not really standing in line, just sort of checking it out.

My body felt weak and unstable teetering under the weight of my backpack. I was recovering from carbon-monoxide poisoning in Castro.

Now she was standing beside my bus. She radiated exotic, South American sensuality—golden skin, lustrous black hair and dark eyes. They were pointed in my direction

Photo by hyperscholar

I wasn’t sure if she could really see me inside the bus through the tinted windows, but I tried not to stare back too intently just in case.

She wasn’t actually climbing aboard. She just watched it as if trying to decide if she really wanted this one. I wanted her to choose this one.

The idea of her getting on also sent a tremor through my body.

The chance that this bus was hers seemed to dwindle the longer it sat in its slot and she didn’t board. And still she watched me. The engine turned over and rumbled to life. Before the doors closed, the woman ran to the bus, up the steps and into the aisle.

She tossed her Planet Hollywood bag into the overhead near the front of the bus then turned, setting her dark-eyed gaze on me and began walking. I sat, like a Huemul in the headlights as she approached. Flashing me a smile like we were old friends, she sat down in the seat next to me.

I’d come to Chile for the summer to bartend at a little hosteria in Villarrica for an American ex-pat friend of mine named Glen. He knew that I had just finished my first round of college and had nothing better to do than pick up and see a different part of the world.

I was grossly unprepared. After months of trying to learn Spanish out of books, I had a solid foundation of six words: yes, no, foot, shoe, beer and wine.

I could smell the warm leather of her jacket and hear the quiet groan of it when she moved her hand up to brush the hair out of her face. I could see the lines on her lips. Glen told me before I arrived in Chile: “Learn as much Spanish as you can before you come. You’ll get more out of the experience.”

It was a simple question, but it came too fast for me to understand. I shrugged and said my well-rehearsed line, “No comprendo. Lo siento.” I don’t understand. I’m sorry. I could already feel this conversation going nowhere.

She began talking to me as if that was the only reason she had gotten on this bus.

“¿De donde es usted?” she asked rapid-fire.

It was a simple question, but it came too fast for me to understand.

I shrugged and said my well-rehearsed line, “No comprendo. Lo siento.” I don’t understand. I’m sorry. I could already feel this conversation going nowhere.

Her smile grew larger. “Where are you from?” she asked in heavily accented English.

“From Montana en Norte Americano,” I said.

Before I got here I assumed there were bus-loads of Americans in bright T-shirts and shorts clogging up every open air market and artisan stand in the country. I was amazed at how few Americans the average Chilean ever saw. In a broken mix of English and Spanish she said she was from Argentina.

“Why are you here?” she asked.

How does any traveler answer this question? Did I really come here to work at a bar in a little hotel? I could do that back in the US. I would be able to speak to the locals and make a lot more than the ten dollars a day I earned here.

When confronted with the idea of telling her that the reason I was here is to find myself having the most beautiful woman in the city get on the same bus as me and begin talking as if drawn together by something bigger than the two of us, I found that I couldn’t possibly do it justice with the scant vocabulary we shared in each others’ languages.

So I stuck with bartending in a hotel in Villarrica.

Volcán Villarica. Photo by author.

Of course, this interested her. I got the feeling that I could have said that I had come to Chile to learn how to sweep floors (something they do differently in Chile than the US, by the way) and she would have been interested to hear about it.

Her apparent interest in me was a little unnerving but exciting in a surreal way, as if I’d stepped onto the set of one of those ridiculous romantic comedies where the storyline relies on the most implausible scenario coming to life.

She said that she was there to visit her mother. She rolled her eyes and said a few things in Spanish I didn’t catch, and didn’t quite know how to phrase a question for her to explain.

She saved me by asking if I’d made it into Argentina while in South America. I was sad to say I only spent one day in Argentina, barely going far enough in to get my passport stamped and have a picnic by a lake under the volcano Lanin.

A frown of disappointment clouded her face for a brief instant before becoming a smile again.“You will have to come visit me in Buenos Aires,” she said, pronouncing each consonant and vowel of the city’s name, making it sound like singing, rather than the muddled way we say it in America. “Es muy bonito.”

Her eyes said I could stay as long as I wanted.

Her eyes said I could stay as long as I wanted. Whether it was my lack of understanding the subtleties of Argentine nuance or not, I wasn’t getting the sense that she was trying to pick me up for a one-nighter, but really wanted me to explore her country and come to love it.

She wondered, if I hadn’t gone to Argentina, then what have I done since I arrived in Chile?

“I climbed the Volcán Villarrica,” I said, not really knowing how to get the rest of the adventure out. “I could see into Argentina from the top,” I said finally. What I couldn’t communicate was that I had experiences both frightening and beautiful on the sides of that mountain, forever changing the way I look at danger and exploration.

We spoke for several more minutes but I could feel my ability to carry on the conversation waning, having exhausted my Spanish. I didn’t want her to go, but I didn’t know how I was going to communicate for the next few hours. She may have thought the same thing, since once the bus lurched out onto the highway, she said goodbye and moved back to her seat near the front of the bus.

I should move up and keep talking to her, I kept thinking as I stared at the back of her head, her smooth, dark hair swaying with the movement of the road. I imagined three outcomes if the encounter continued:

  • We’d fall in love and I’d miss my plane back to the US to travel around Chile and Argentina with a partner (something I wished I had every time over the last three months I’d found myself in a position of making a fool of myself.)
  • We’d have a short-term romantic interlude before I headed back to the States—something I didn’t have much experience with, but had always sounded interesting.
  • We’d have a fun, platonic time exploring her destination. I’d finally have someone to travel with, if only for a day or two.

All of the options sounded more fulfilling than traveling the last few days of my trip alone. Every time the bus slowed I sat up a little straighter as if to move forward but I stayed where I was. Each option sounded just as terrifying as exciting.

I’d always looked up to the people who deviated from the course of life so as to live in the excitement of the moment. I was so close to being one of those people, all I had to do was get up and go.

Castro, Chile. Where the author got carbon monoxide poisoning.

As the busy tourist season had wound down and my pisco sours were no longer in such high demand, I decided it was time to finally leave Villarrica and explore more of the country. I made my way south to Castro on the Isle of Chiloe, home of the palafitos or stilt houses built out into the water along the coast so fishermen could park their boats under their houses.

After staying in the much cheaper hospedajes, or empty rooms a families rent out to travelers, I chose to stay in a tiny hotel room on the third floor of Hotel Azul overlooking a busy street and the main sea lane busy with boats of all sizes chugging in and out of the harbor.

I made a preliminary trek around the city the night before and at sunrise I woke up to find a beautiful day. I opened the window of the tiny hotel room, grabbed my camera and went out to capture the palafitos in the morning light.

When I returned to the hotel, I knew I’d gotten the best photos of my entire time in Chile and decided to take a short nap before trying to find something to eat and my next destination. It was the biggest mistake of the trip.

I awoke feeling like I had the worst hangover of my life. I hoped that going back to sleep might help it go away. I felt too horrible to even drift back into unconsciousness. Eventually, I smelled it. A mixture of diesel and gasoline exhaust coming in the open window from the road and boats outside. I shut the window, but too late. My journey southward was finished.

The next couple of days involved eating almost nothing and stumbling from bus station to bus station, finally arriving back in Puerto Montt. On the morning of the third day I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to die out in the Chilean countryside, but had squandered enough days that I decided to make my way back to Villarrica.

That’s how I came to stare at the beautiful Argentine girl near the front of the bus.

Photo by Milesdeelite.

As we closed in on Osorno, I couldn’t guess where a relationship with this girl could go, but that’s not the nature of relationships even when you can speak the language.

It’s not the nature of travel, either. The nature of travel is to remain flexible, break plans and see what happens. If I didn’t make a move, I would probably regret it.

When the bus stopped in Osorno, I thought this is the last chance I’m going to get to know this person.

Before I could get myself to take the chance, she stood, pulled her bag from the overhead, and walked to the back of the bus.

I hoped she would drop again into the seat beside me, but instead she handed me a sealed envelope.

She asked me what my name was, told me hers, said a quick, sweet goodbye and went to the exit. She kissed her palm and blew it to me before stepped down the stairs. She did not look back as she went to the terminal.

I held the envelope until after we’d begun moving again. Safely at speed I cut open the envelope and pulled out a photograph of the woman and a note half in Spanish, half English:

You broke my heart. I’m giving you this photo so that you remember on the other side of the world someone awaits you.

It gave me an address and said not to forget to come visit her when I make it to Argentina. I tucked the note back into the envelope and stared out the window, wondering why I hadn’t opened it before the bus left Orono and chased after her.

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